The 4 P’s of Developing Your Kids’ Social and Emotional Intelligence

Parenting two rowdy boys, aged 8 and 11, can be such a pain in the neck for mothers who have full-time jobs like I do. I would often act as a referee when they fight and are angry at each other. Being a bookish nerd that I am, I consulted some parenting books, and I found out about the 4P’s and the importance of teaching social and emotional skills to kids as early as possible.


Social and emotional skills are essential in a child’s learning when it comes to communication, dealing with conflict, connecting with others, and coping with difficulties. According to studies, children with good social and emotional skills perform better in school and get better jobs when they become adults.

Some child psychologists recommend using the 4 P’s approach as an effective strategy to ensure social and emotional development. This approach can be applied to teaching appropriate behaviors such as taking turns, sharing, and non-interruption in conversations.

1. Practice

You can use the 4 P’s to make your child learn the value of sharing. First, you practice with your kid while you are sharing something such as food and money.

2. Praise

Second, you praise your child whenever he or she tries to share things with others. Do it right after the behavior so that the kid knows he or she is doing the right thing.

3. Point Out

Third, you point out good examples of sharing in daily situations, such as sharing toys and food with the sibling.

4. Prompt

Finally, you prompt your child to share when necessary. For instance, when you give cookies, remind your child to share them with his or her siblings. For anger management, you can promote self-control by teaching your child how to breathe deeply. This will calm your child down whenever he or she is angry.

Your child’s social and emotional development should always be monitored, no matter how hard it may be. Shaping your child’s social skills will definitely be beneficial to him or her in the end.